Dear ABBY: I moved to a rural place a few of decades ago and was stunned at how pleasant my neighbors have been. They appeared eager to assistance at initially. I got sick and had to invest a couple of days in the clinic. I asked the few to you should feed and drinking water my pets right up until I could arrive house. They did, but they also created a copy of my household keys, entered my household right after I returned to work and stole numerous thousand dollars’ worthy of of stuff from me. 

I am hurt and pretty angry over this. The law enforcement said I have to demonstrate receipts to confirm possession of the factors that had been taken. But most of it I have owned for years, and I no more time have the receipts. 

I’m going to confront this couple, but how do I get more than what they did? I cannot think how trashy and small-class they are. They both have jobs. I live by itself on one income. A good deal of the issues they stole I had to conserve up to spend for. They are nothing at all additional than liars and intruders. What do you advise? — VICTIMIZED IN OKLAHOMA

Pricey VICTIMIZED: Be sure to acknowledge my sympathy. You reliable your neighbors, and they took advantage. But the horse is out of the barn. Alter the locks on your dwelling if you have not previously accomplished it. Set up security cameras connected to your cellphone so you have a file of who enters your home when you are out. Photograph and listing the serial figures on your precious goods and retailer it absent from household. (A basic safety deposit box would be a harmless area.) And insure any objects of price so you are protected in case it comes about again.

Expensive ABBY: Three months back, my husband of 30 yrs came home from do the job, instructed me he was not content any more and explained he desired a divorce. He introduced he was relocating in with his brother right until he could obtain a place. Six times later on, I discovered out he’d moved in with a lady he’d been viewing for a several months. 

I am devastated. He flaunts his new heifer all all-around town, forcing her on our granddaughters and rubbing her in my face. My divorce has been submitted on the grounds of adultery. I can’t consider he dragged my adult kids into the center of this and designed them lie to me. 

I have been making an attempt to enable go, but how do you permit go of another person who gave you so a great deal to bear in mind? I’m however extremely much in appreciate with him. Following these a lengthy marriage, will have to I just permit it conclude like this? — DUMBFOUNDED IN TENNESSEE

Expensive DUMBFOUNDED: I suppose you could discuss to your lawyer and consider to drag out the divorce, hoping your spouse will “come to his senses.” But at some place, you will have to confess to on your own that the guy you married isn’t the particular person you assumed he was. 

You have each individual correct to come to feel ache and anger, but your time and funds would be superior invested in the business of a accredited mental wellbeing skilled. That your adult little ones went alongside with trying to keep you in the darkish is shameful. It will acquire time to get the job done via this, and the quicker you get started, the improved.

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was established by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Call Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.