Dear ABBY: My ex has main custody of our young daughter, “Kayli,” and is with her 99% of the time. I have Kayli every single other weekend. Her mother has been dropping her off with a bag loaded with wrapped provides. These presents are marked by day and hour. Together with the provides, my ex has created a number of alarms in our daughter’s telephone to allow her know it is time to open up the presents. 

I have questioned her to prevent executing this, as it is a enormous distraction and disruption that interferes with my time with Kayli. On multiple occasions when my daughter and I are feeding on meal, her alarm goes off and she gets up and leaves the desk to open a existing from Mother. Sometimes, she’ll delay leaving the household if she understands it’s nearly time to open a existing. 

Often, I flip off the alarms and silence Kayli’s mobile phone mainly because if she’s not reminded about them, she doesn’t care about the presents. Nonetheless, what also comes about is that Mother will textual content or call our daughter to see if she has opened the presents. She has refused to stop this follow and replied by stating she will continue due to the fact it tends to make our daughter cozy. 

Kayli has been viewing my home for 10 months. This apply only began three months ago when my ex and I finally settled on a custody agreement. Apart from turning off the alarms and silencing her cell phone, is there everything I can do to limit Kayli’s mom’s interference throughout our time alongside one another? — DISRUPTED IN THE EAST

Expensive DISRUPTED: There is loads you can do. Speak to your lawyer and place a end to her intentional sabotage. Your ex is hoping to prevent you from making a near connection with your daughter, and it is not healthy for you or for Kayli.

Dear ABBY: My spouse, “Buddy,” did some HVAC perform for some pals of ours. We are living in California, where by it can get super heat. My husband compensated upfront ($600) for the fees. He despatched them an invoice, and the husband replied, “No worries, Buddy. I’ll achieve out to you next 7 days.” 

It has been four months — and nevertheless no payment. I know my husband really should not have waited this long to acquire, but the couple experienced just purchased a residence, so he was striving to be delicate to their money predicament. 

A few weeks back, he despatched yet another information with a reminder and a identical response came back: “No problems, Buddy. I will come see you Monday.” Perfectly, Monday has appear and gone and Practically nothing. No 1 desires to struggle or go to court docket about this, but how can mates do that to other close friends? Can my partner however ask for the payment? Or should he just write the cash and the “friends” off? — Clearly show US THE Dollars!

Dear Exhibit US: This appears to be an additional instance of “no superior deed goes unpunished.” Now that you know these “friends” absence character, reduce your losses and publish them (and the personal debt) off. Unless you have anything in producing proving they owe you the cash, I don’t assume you stand a prospect in courtroom.

Expensive Abby is penned by Abigail Van Buren, also recognised as Jeanne Phillips, and was started by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.