Dear ABBY: My boyfriend of two several years, “Rick,” is addicted to social media — largely the women of all ages on there. I’m not on any of his social media, and it would seem like he functions like he’s single there. If he’s not at perform, he is at residence, but always on his phone.
Rick pays much more awareness to Fb than he does to me. There are much more than 2,000 girls on his FB, and he follows thousands on his TikTok. He likes and “hearts” their photographs and even responses. He sees very little improper with it since he’s property with me and not bodily in contact with them. This has been our only issue the entire time we have been alongside one another. When I convey my emotions about it, he tells me I’m overreacting and that it’s “just social media.”
I informed Rick I truly feel like he’s cheating in a way for the reason that he is devoting his awareness to other females that he could be offering me. It is like he requires continuous focus, even if it is innocent. It tends to make me sense like I’m not enough for him, that he’s no extended intrigued in me and he’s on the lookout for the following gal to move on to.
I really feel like I have to compete with these girls on-line. His TikTok is mainly women of all ages dancing 50 %-bare. I can be virtually suitable up coming to him in mattress, but he would instead seem at them. Other than this dependancy, Rick is an remarkable guy. Make sure you assistance. — COMPETING IN OHIO
Expensive COMPETING: Rick may perhaps be “amazing,” but he is also absent. He might be subsequent to you physically, but if his notice is directed to the dancing ladies on display, you could freeze to demise and he would not see. In a way, in actuality, you ARE freezing due to the fact your love existence has been place on ice. Until Rick is eager to discover points he can do with you fairly than feed his habit, you truly should really find a associate who is offered.
Pricey ABBY: My husband has often been a rule-breaker. For the duration of the COVID lockdown, he refused to improve his routines. He ongoing to do unneeded errands each day and try to eat lunch out (even if it intended in his motor vehicle). My pleas for him to cease fell on deaf ears. I safeguarded myself by keeping my length.
Although neither of us bought the virus, I’m possessing problems excusing his selfish actions. He has offered no apologies and appears to be to think he did almost nothing erroneous for the reason that neither of us bought unwell. I sustain that is not the place. He place each of us at possibility. How can I get earlier this? — DODGED IT IN THE MIDWEST
Pricey DODGED IT: You and your partner have been lucky. A way to get past this would be to request your partner in a non-confrontational fashion WHY he did what he did, and whether or not he took into consideration that it may well have set you in threat. Then allow him clarify.
If his response is not satisfactory sufficient for you to “get previous this,” recognize that this is what you signed on for when you married a “bad boy” (aka a rule-breaker) and make guaranteed to acquire ALL the needed precautions to guard on your own in the potential.
Expensive Abby is penned by Abigail Van Buren, also regarded as Jeanne Phillips, and was established by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Get in touch with Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.