Dear ABBY: I am a lesbian who has been in a partnership for a year and a 50 percent. My lover was with guys the the greater part of her life. One particular of her very last exes is a person she now phone calls her best buddy. She talks with and texts him every single working day. I now have have confidence in difficulties with them since of anything I noticed four months in the past. 

I adore a great deal about her, besides she’s not very affectionate with me, and I will need that. I realized when I was to start with getting associated with her that he was likely to be in her existence. They have no kids tying them collectively, but we all go kayaking often. Whilst I’m not snug with it, she has provided me no option if I want to kayak with her. She also hides items from me, like when she purchases him items. 

How do I handle the jealousy I feel for him? I just can’t stand to be close to him, for the reason that I know in my gut there is deception. But I never want to get rid of all the superior I have with her. — THREE’S A Crowd IN VIRGINIA

Pricey THREE’S A Group: What does “all the great you have with her” entail? What I collect from your letter is that you have used a yr and a half with someone who is bisexual, whom you really do not fully trust, and who helps make you truly feel like a 3rd wheel. 

From exactly where I sit, your jealousy is justified. A few in a romantic relationship is awfully crowded, unless of course it’s by mutual settlement. If you haven’t talked to her about your feelings, you must. And if you simply cannot get there at a resolution, end your suffering and move on. 

Dear ABBY: I am the father of an adult son, “Kirk,” who is in a partnership with a younger girl who has a youthful kid. Neither is nicely educated, but they both have first rate jobs. 

Kirk has a teenage daughter who is having prepared for faculty in one more point out. They are close, though I’m not absolutely sure to what degree he supports her monetarily. I have saved some dollars for her college, but he has not. Kirk by no means married her mom. 

My concern experienced been that my son and his girlfriend may be making an attempt to have a newborn. When he told me she is pregnant, I was past livid and allow him know what a error this was. I advised Kirk he owns absolutely nothing nor does she, and questioned what that child has to glimpse forward to. His girlfriend gets no guidance from her child’s father. 

My son has now stopped chatting to me. Is this my fault? I spoke what I considered was in the finest desire of all functions associated, financially and morally. — SEES A Miscalculation IN FLORIDA

Expensive SEES: At times, before we converse, it is smart to check with ourselves, “Is it accurate? Is it practical? Is it kind?” When your comment was accurate, the girlfriend is previously pregnant. 

Fiscally, Kirk will be on the hook till his next youngster results in being an adult, no matter whether or not he marries the mom, so I’m thinking what you mentioned was neither beneficial nor type. If you want a partnership with your son, it may well be time to apologize. 

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