Dear ABBY: My brother not too long ago called to explain to me he experienced proposed to his girlfriend, and she fortunately accepted. Although I’m glad he is pleased, I’m fearful about what to do if he asks me to be his greatest person. 

Even though his girlfriend can be a good human being, they have a a single-sided relationship in which she controls a ton of what my brother does. She often wants to be the heart of consideration at spouse and children features and piles on the PDA towards my brother in public destinations. 

I experience undesirable for him because he has not been in lots of passionate interactions and, to me, it just appears to be like he’s settling. I may be leaping the gun on this — maybe he won’t request — but I truly believe that the most effective guy at their wedding really should be anyone who really supports this connection — and that is not me. Any information? — “WORST MAN” IN NEW YORK

Dear “WORST MAN”: Bide your time. Due to the fact your brother’s fiancee is the one in management, she could be the one particular who decides who must be the very best man. If she has a brother or a male cousin she feels near to, you may be off the hook. Even so, if you are questioned, you will have to fess up and notify him about your fears as diplomatically as possible.

Pricey ABBY: I am a 57-year-old solitary mom. All 4 of my youngsters are living at dwelling. My oldest daughter is also a single mom, with two beautiful youngsters. She’s in higher education so she can get a fantastic-paying out task. 

I have a different daughter who is in her 20s and has intellectual delays. She lies around the dwelling reading her cellphone or employing her laptop. She’s really messy and refuses to take care of herself or assist with residence chores. 

A 3rd daughter is also in college or university, but she lives in a dorm. When she’s house, she’s also type of sloppy, and my son is over and above messy. There’s trash and dirty dishes all around his room. If I say everything, he ignores me. What would you do? — MESSED UP IN PENNSYLVANIA

Expensive MESSED UP: You have established this monster of a problem by failing to assert your authority as a dad or mum. What I would do is some thing you need to have performed at the very least 15 years ago: Tell the “children” what is envisioned of them, and what the penalty will be for disregarding you. Then, if they never shape up, display them the doorway. You have supplied your young children every little thing except the incentive to just take treatment of themselves.

Expensive ABBY: I really like animals and at present have a flock of chickens, all hens. I treatment for these ladies, and in return I get wonderful fresh eggs. I live in a correct-to-farm group, and I’m taking into consideration acquiring a rooster to give the girls some enjoyment. The trouble is, roosters crow, I have neighbors and I’m not positive if they will be upset with the crowing early in the morning. Advice? — Ready TO CROW IN MASSACHUSETTS

Dear Ready: If you feel the hens will turn out to be thrilled when you adopt the rooster, picture the stir it will cause among the your neighbors. Question them 1st, unless you want the feathers to fly.

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